I have always been an overanxious and conscientious parent .
One side to it was that I was very caring, patient and a thoughtful mother but the other side of the coin was that I was sometimes also very panicky, over reactive , exaggerating.
My mother's advice : WHEN A KID IS IN TROUBLE CLOSE YOUR MOUTH AND OPEN YOUR ARMS ( god ! how I miss her )
With four children and 2 others in a big joint family, I am admired for my good qualities but at times I have a big mouth and little patience. I lost my temper over trivial things and said awful and scary things to my children . Fortunately, they forgave me because I would remember my mother's advice. I would hug them and assure them that everything was alright. They have all flown into their nests and are doing very well for themselves. I look back and reflect that when I closed my mouth and controlled my temper, I could hear about their fear anger, guilt and repentance. They could admit they were wrong or ignorant knowing they were loved unconditionally anyway .
Even today, when my 14 year old son gives me one odf his bear hugs that nearly collapses my lungs , i think the child in my adult body feels the same.
I am still learning to Close my mouth and open my arms.
That's a great post. I know how difficult it is to be a parent and I guess being a mother of more than one child, It becomes more difficult but looks like that you are dealing with these responsibilities with joy and love and also trying to be more patient :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for your response,children are lovely gifts but to nurture them you have to keep nurturing yourself !
DeleteRefreshing Post!!Please keep blogging :)The space looks wonderful.
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DeleteWhat a pleasant read! Your children must be proud of a mother who's given her life to the upbringing of the precious jewels. For a mother who cares so much as to sacrifice her personal life for her children, has the complete authority to speak unpleasant things when they go wrong.
ReplyDeleteMaybe, it's time you offer some hearty advice to your children who'll implement it in their own personal spheres!
Really inspiring.. I could have only expected it from a very loving and caring mother..
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